-To all those who complain that I don't call them and do not want to keep in touch ! :(
In the past decade or two the modes of communication have not only gotten better but have exponentially increased in number. Now we have twitter, facebook, kin, skype etc. apart from the good old telephone (or cellphones as we now call them these days ;) ). But telephone/cell phone is probably still most common means of communication - the one I am painstakingly bad at :-s.
Yesterday, I called one of my best friends visiting US. Now we chat on the internet almost everyday and hardly ever run out of things to talk about, but yesterday I probably had one of the most awkward phone conversations. I called, and after saying Hi! I was literally out of ideas of what to talk about. The bad signal didn't help either. But comm'on, she is my bff, how can it get that awkard? sigh !
A few weeks ago a good friend moved out of town, a good 3000 miles away. So, I called her to ask about her new apartment, new job etc. But after that, again I had no idea what to say :-s. When she was here, we could talk and gossip forever, but its like on the phone I get this weird mental block and then I become all awkward.
So, this is not something I realized just recently. I have always been awkward on phone and therefore I never call people, unless there is a good reason. Even then its always to the point, or until the person on the other side can hold up the conversation :P. But I CAN CHAT !! I can chat and chat and chat away over the internet. And I can exchange emails... long long long emails :).
I am not completely sure of why I am like this, but I have a few theories, out of which the following one makes the most sense. For those who know me, know how sometimes I formulate my sentences without much thinking (cos that is too much work for me) and I either end up embarrassing myself or them :). In person you can always see the expressions on one's face and hence people realize I didn't mean to offend or embarrass them. On chat, I can read what I am going to say and realize before hitting SEND, and correct myself before the damage is done :). And I am not under constant pressure of oh I have to say something, the silence is going to ruin everything !
So to all you out there, who think their friends don't call them and don't want to connect anymore, give them a chance via email or chat before you make up your mind :).
In the past decade or two the modes of communication have not only gotten better but have exponentially increased in number. Now we have twitter, facebook, kin, skype etc. apart from the good old telephone (or cellphones as we now call them these days ;) ). But telephone/cell phone is probably still most common means of communication - the one I am painstakingly bad at :-s.
Yesterday, I called one of my best friends visiting US. Now we chat on the internet almost everyday and hardly ever run out of things to talk about, but yesterday I probably had one of the most awkward phone conversations. I called, and after saying Hi! I was literally out of ideas of what to talk about. The bad signal didn't help either. But comm'on, she is my bff, how can it get that awkard? sigh !
A few weeks ago a good friend moved out of town, a good 3000 miles away. So, I called her to ask about her new apartment, new job etc. But after that, again I had no idea what to say :-s. When she was here, we could talk and gossip forever, but its like on the phone I get this weird mental block and then I become all awkward.
So, this is not something I realized just recently. I have always been awkward on phone and therefore I never call people, unless there is a good reason. Even then its always to the point, or until the person on the other side can hold up the conversation :P. But I CAN CHAT !! I can chat and chat and chat away over the internet. And I can exchange emails... long long long emails :).
I am not completely sure of why I am like this, but I have a few theories, out of which the following one makes the most sense. For those who know me, know how sometimes I formulate my sentences without much thinking (cos that is too much work for me) and I either end up embarrassing myself or them :). In person you can always see the expressions on one's face and hence people realize I didn't mean to offend or embarrass them. On chat, I can read what I am going to say and realize before hitting SEND, and correct myself before the damage is done :). And I am not under constant pressure of oh I have to say something, the silence is going to ruin everything !
So to all you out there, who think their friends don't call them and don't want to connect anymore, give them a chance via email or chat before you make up your mind :).
3 comments:
You should read this
http://theoatmeal.com/comics/phone
haha... my biggest issue is the 4th one.. the pauses ! :)
A lot of people are like that. I for one really really hesitate to call people, esp. ones I don't know, like when ordering in, or making reservations or speaking with customer support :-s
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